Wedding Preparation Guidelines
1. Be sure to secure a marriage license for your wedding in the state in which the wedding will occur.
A legal marriage requires a license from the appropriate jurisdiction. This is the county clerk of the state in which the marriage will happen. In other states it may be the city or county clerk's office of the wedding site. You will need to appear in person, provide identification and pay a fee, usually $30. Requirements vary among locations and you should contact the licensing authority in which you are to be married for exact details.
Marriage licenses have an expiration date that is generally 60 days after issuance. A license should be applied for no less than 10 business days before the wedding date to avoid any problems. Please check with the appropriate agency in your area for details.
You will need to have the license available on the wedding day where it will be signed by Fr Jim who will give you a commemorative certificate.
To obtain a CERTIFIED copy of Marriage Certificate for name change, etc. contact the appropriate agency approximately 10 business days after your wedding. The completed and signed license is returned to the appropriate jurisdiction the first business day after the wedding. Officiant will provide a commemorative certificate on the wedding day and, if requested, will email bride/groom an electronic copy.
2. Make sure you provide the officiant(s) with your selections of prayers, readings, vows and blessings at least 1 week prior to the ceremony along with the names of any readers if you have any. See Sample Ceremonies. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact the officiantl We are dedicated to making your wedding day special.
3. If you are planning on creating a program for your guests, you can find suggestions at Sample Programs. You can also find outlines for both the Wedding Ceremony and Nuptial Mass at the same link.
4. Music is an important part of your wedding ceremony. Sample Wedding Music provides links to audio versions of some of the more popular selections used by couples.
WEDDING DAY CHECK-OFF LIST
A. Suggestion: Place the following in one large sized envelope:
____ Marriage License and Envelope(usually provided by the issuing agency)
____ To obtain a CERTIFIED copy of Marriage Certificate for name change, etc. contact the appropriate county agency approximately 10 business days after your wedding. The completed and signed license is returned to the appropriate jurisdiction the first business day after the wedding.
____ Officiant will provide a commemorative certificate on the wedding day and, if requested, will email bride/groom an electronic copy
B. Ceremony Items as they apply:
____ Rings (moisturizer)
____ Ring Bearer Pillow
____ Unity Candle plus 2 Tapers (hurricane covers recommended for outdoor weddings)
____ Runner (also white duct tape)
____ Veil, Cord (Latin, Filipino custom)
____ Coins (Latin, Filipino custom)
____ "Roses to Parents"
____ Sand Ceremony Items
____ Wine Ceremony Items
Place the following in one large sized envelope:
____ Marriage License
____ Fee Envelope _______
(Payable to Fr Jim Balija)
The Officiant will direct you to the web site for a sample marriage ceremony with links to prayers, reading, blessings and vow options. If you wish to choose specific readings, please identify them and share them with the Officiant at least one week prior to the ceremony so that he can prepare his materials for your big day. Friends and families are encouraged to participate by reading the scripture and/or non-scripture passages you have chosen as well as the petition prayers.
For more details come to Sample Ceremonies for links to ceremony options.
REHEARSAL NOTE: Due to travel distances and other commitments I am NOT seldom available for rehearsals. The venue does a great job with the basics and I lead you through the rest.
Rehearsals are a simple matter - the purpose for a rehearsal is to let the parents/attendants know where they will be standing, sitting, etc. Because of distance and other commitments I don’t participate in rehearsals before the wedding day itself. I will be happy to come an hour early to conduct a quick run through if needed. The venue coordinator will do the basics with you, just be assured your wedding day will move smoothly with or without a rehearsal. Don't stress out about rehearsals. Two preliminary considerations should be addressed:
1. Remind Bridal Attendances to smile, breath, and walk to "Mississippi" so as not to marathon down aisle.
2. Assign/Ask some NOT in the wedding party and NOT a parent to run the rehearsal.
THE PLAN (Indicate Seating: Stage (Right/Left) Row, Seat: (SR,R1,S1)
The following is provided for those who want a rehearsal when a coordinator is not available.
Don't stress out about rehearsals. Two considerations should be addressed are:
1. Who walks with whom and in what order and
2. Who seats parents and grandparents
Assign/Ask someone in the wedding party and a parent to run the rehearsal.
Set attendants in place where they will be standing once they have entered
Set Bride Groom where they will be standing once Bride has entered.
Set parents in positions where they will be seated once they have entered.
Decide grooms’ men's hand position: hands in back, at side, or in front.
Bride/Groom exit, followed by bridal party
Rehearse entrance by lining everyone up in the appropriate order.
SEATING MUSIC A
Groom's Mother First Name by (Best Man First Name) (SL,R1,S1) followed by Groom's Father First Name (SL,R1,S2)
Row 1 GF, GM GGF GGM
Groom's Grandparents First Name(s) (If married, together, if single by Groomsman First Name)
Bride's Grandparents First Name(s) (If married, together, if single by Groomsman First Name)
Row 1 GF GM GGF GGM
Bride's Mother First Name by (Best Man First Name) (SR,R1,S1)
Entry of Groom's Party, BM First Name, First Name, First Name, etc. (OR are groomsmen entering with Bridal Attendants?)
PROCESSIONAL MUSIC NO.1
Ring Bearer First Name
(Coin Bearer, if child, First Name)
Bridal Attendant #1 First Name (or with Groomsman First Name)
Bridal Attendant #2 First Name (or with Groomsman First Name)
Bridal Attendant #3 First Name (or with Groomsman First Name)
Maid of Honor First Name (or with Best Man First Name)
Flower Girl First Name
PROCESSIONAL MUSIC NO. 2
Bride First Name with Escort Dad (First Name) (SR,R1,S2)
Presentation of Bride to Groom
BA BA BA MH Bride Groom BM GM GM GM
Practice entering and proceed to assigned position (#1,2)
Rehearsal DONE! - NO MORE than 20 minutes. - then to dinner if you're having a rehearsal dinner.
I will meet with all involved in processional before the wedding ceremony to go over last-minute details and review order.
Please feel free to email or call me if you have any questions about this process. Remember, your main responsibility is to enjoy your wedding day.
Once you stand before me all will flow smoothly.
Sample Wedding Homily
Just a few of the weddings I officiated over the years.