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Unity Wine Ceremony

In the Unity Wine Ceremony the bride and groom each take a carafe of wine and pour into a single glass.  They both drink the mixed wine to symbolize their willingness to share both the joys and disappointments of life.

Officiant:  In this cup you have the fruit of the vine which has grown, like your relationship, under the brightness of love, the winds of difference, and the nurturing you offered each other when tears, like rain, have fallen in times of sorrow and separation.  This wine comes from those grapes crushed to release their goodness, seasoned in oak barrels to change from grape juice to wine and poured out for us at just the right time to give us joy in its flavor and bouquet.

For you today this cup is symbolic of the pledges you have made to one another to share in the fullness of your lives.  As you drink from this cup you acknowledge to one another that your lives have become one. 

Officiant hands the glass to the groom who drinks and then offers it to the bride who also drinks before passing it back to the officiant.

Officiant:  As you  have shared this cup so may you share your lives together.  May all the sweetness that it holds for you be the sweeter because you have tasted it together.  May you find life’s joys heightened, it’s bitterness sweetened and your lives be enriched by God’s blessings upon you.

The Wedding Wine Box Ceremony

The wedding wine box ceremony and love letter exchange entails the bride and groom writing heartfelt love letters to each other prior to the wedding day. On the day of their wedding, both of the sealed love letters (unread) are placed in a box along with a bottle of wine, two goblets and other mementos.

The wedding officiant explains the box and its contents to wedding guests, clarifying that the box should only be opened should the couple encounter trouble in their marriage or on a predetermined milestone (such as their fifth or tenth wedding anniversary). Once the wedding wine box is opened the wine is to be enjoyed and the love letters read to remind each other of why they chose to marry.

Witnessed by the guests in attendance, the couple performs the ceremonial "Locking of the Box" to symbolize the commitment they are making to each other. Following the wedding, the decorative box is to be displayed in a prominent place in the couple’s home with the key stored in a safe place so that they can unlock and enjoy the contents at the agreed upon time.

Officiant:  A lovingly hand written letter is one of the most romantic and sentimental gestures possible, and this very personal form of communication will preserve all the thoughts and emotions that you are experiencing during a very exciting time in your relationship.  Reading these letters, you will be reminded of the special things that made you fall in love in the first place, and hopefully it will help to put things back on track and renew your faith and commitment to your marriage and each other.

Couple locks the box and the key is kept in a safe place for later retrieval.