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Getting a Marriage License

A legal marriage requires a license from the appropriate agency. In most cases this is the registrar's office of the locale in which you live but it may also be from another agency. This usually requires the couple to appear in person and provide identification and pay a fee. This varies among locations and you should contact the agency in which you are to be married for exact details. It is recommended that you contact the local registrar for their office hours.  Remember, you must have the appropriate marriage license on the day of the wedding.

Marriage licenses have an expiration date that is generally 30-60 days after issuance. Some also have a minimum 24-72 hour validity date before it can be used. Please check with the appropriate agency in your area for details.

To obtain a CERTIFIED copy of Marriage License for name change, etc. contact the appropriate agency approximately 10 business days after your wedding.   The completed and signed license is returned to the appropriate jurisdiction the first business day after the wedding. Officiant will provide a commemorative certificate on the wedding day and, if requested, will email bride/groom an electronic copy

The Ceremony:

The Officiant will direct you to the web site for a sample marriage ceremony with links to prayers, reading, blessings and vow options. If you wish to choose specific readings please identify them and share them with the Officiant at least one week prior to the ceremony so that he can prepare his materials for your big day. Friends and families are encouraged to participate by reading the scripture and/or non scripture passages you have chosen as well as the petition prayers.

For more details come to
Weddings for links to ceremony options.

                            CHECK-OFF LIST (for Day of Wedding)

A. Suggestion: Place the following in one large sized envelope:

   ____ Marriage License and Envelope
(usually provided by the issuing agency)

  ____ To obtain a CERTIFIED copy of Marriage certificate for name change, etc. contact the appropriate county agency approximately 10 business days after your wedding. The completed and signed license is returned to the appropriate jurisdiction the first business day after the wedding.

  ____ Officiant will provide a commemorative certificate on the wedding day and, if requested, will email bride/groom an electronic copy

B. Ceremony Items as they apply:

   ____ Rings (moisturizer)
   ____ Ring Bearer Pillow
   ____ Unity Candle plus 2 Tapers
(hurricane covers recommended for outdoor weddings)
  ____  Runner
(also white duck tape)
   ____  Veil, Cord
(Latin, Filipino custom)
   ____  Coins
(Latin, Filipino custom)
   ____ "Roses to Parents"

   ____  Sand Ceremony Items

   ____  Wine Ceremony Items

REHEARSAL NOTE: Due to travel distances we are generally NOT available for rehearsals. Written instructions are provided so that the wedding party knows entrance, positioning and exiting procedures, the most important elements of a rehearsal.

Rehearsal Outline Rehearsals are a simple matter - the purpose for a rehearsal is to let the parents/attendants know where they will be standing, sitting, etc.

Don't stress out about rehearsals. Two preliminary considerations should be addressed:

  1. Remind Bridal Attendances to smile, breath, and walk to "Mississippi" so as not to marathon down aisle.

  2. Assign/Ask some NOT in the wedding party and NOT a parent to run the rehearsal.

The Procedure:

  1. Set attendants in place where they will be standing once they have entered.
  2. Set Bride Groom where they will be standing once Bride has entered.
  3. Set parents in positions where they will be seated once they have entered.
  4. Decide grooms men's hand position: hands in back, at side, or in front fig-lead right over left or left over right.
  5. Bride/Groom exit, followed by bridal party.
  6. Then prepare to rehearse entrance by lining everyone up according to the schedule we discussed at our pre-nuptial conference:

THE PLAN (Indicate Seating: Stage (Right/Left) Row, Seat: (SR,R1,S1)

SEATING MUSIC A

Groom's Mother First Name by (Best Man First Name) (SL,R1,S1) followed by Groom's Father First Name (SL,R1,S2)

Row 1      GF, GM GGF GGM

Groom's Grandparents First Name(s) (If married, together, if single by Groomsman First Name)

Bride's Grandparents First Name(s) (If married, together, if single by Groomsman First Name)

Row 1   GF GM GGF GGM

Bride's Mother First Name by (Best Man First Name) (SR,R1,S1)

Entry of Groom's Party, BM First Name, First Name, First Name, etc. (OR are groomsmen entering with Bridal Attendants?)

PROCESSIONAL MUSIC NO.1

Ring Bearer First Name

(Coin Bearer, if child, First Name)

Bridal Attendant #1 First Name (or with Groomsman First Name)

Bridal Attendant #2 First Name (or with Groomsman First Name)

Bridal Attendant #3 First Name (or with Groomsman First Name)

Maid of Honor First Name (or with Best Man First Name)

Flower Girl First Name

PROCESSIONAL MUSIC NO. 2

Bride First Name with Escort Dad (First Name) (SR,R1,S2)

Presentation of Bride to Groom

Officiant

BA BA BA MH Bride     Groom BM GM GM GM

Practice entering and proceed to assigned position (#1,2)

Rehearsal DONE! - NO MORE than 20 minutes. - then to dinner if you're having a rehearsal dinner.

I will meet with all involved in processional before the wedding ceremony to go over last minute details and review order.

Please feel free to email or call me if you have any questions about this process. Remember, you main responsibility is to enjoy your wedding day.

Once you stand before me all will flow smoothly.