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Unity Sand Ceremony

The sand ceremony, more formally known as the unity sand ceremony is much like the unity candle.  A basic sand ceremony involves three (typically glass) vessels -- one holding the bride's sand, one holding the groom's sand, and an empty one that will soon hold both, all sitting on a small table or stand.

The officiant explains the meaning of the ceremony and how it relates to the two people getting married.  The officiant invites the groom to pour a bit of his sand (let's call it blue sand) into the empty vessel. Then the officiant invites the bride to do the same with her sand (let's say it's pink).
The bride and groom then pour their sands at the same time, in a single stream, into the vessel.  The officiant closes the ceremony with some words about the inextricable joining of their lives.

The end result is a glass container holding one of blue sand (the groom), one layer of pink sand (the bride), and a top layer of purple sand, showing how the joining of the two have created a new, equally beautiful entity.  It lends itself especially well to blended families, when the bride and/or groom already have children. Having each child (or special relative or friend or parents) pour his or her own colored sand into the vessel along with the couple involves them in the ceremony .  Three options are presented for your consideration.


Option 1.  Couple Only


Officiant:  Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand, one representing you BRIDE and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you, GROOM, and all that you were and all that you are, and all that you will ever be. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.


Option 2: Couple and children


Officiant:  We are all members of one family, Gods family.  Today as N. and N. have sealed their commitment to each other with the exchange of promises and rings they to make a commitment to their children. We recognize the significant role that (all of children's names) play in this marriage celebrated today. They will now join N. and N. in this commitment to each other by contribution a part of each individual person into one blended family. Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of this sand, each representing a member. As each individuals sand is poured into the family's one united container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will become the bond with your family

From this day forward, you will be more than one couple or two individuals – you will be a loving and united family.  You are a family drawn together by Christ's love and held together by devotion.


Option 3:  Couple and their Mothers and/or Fathers


Officiant:  N. and N. today you have agreed to share the rest of your lives together as a married couple.  But long before today your parents provided you with a foundation of love and caring which has brought you to this point.

At this time I'd like to invite the mothers (and/or fathers) of N. and N. to come forward and to pour the first layer of sand which represents the basis upon which you will build your lives.

~Mothers pour the sand and then return to their seats.

The union you are making is symbolized by these two individual containers of sand; one representing you, N., and all that you were, and all that you are, and that you will become.

The other one representing you, N., and all that you were, and all that you are, and all that you will become.

As these two containers of sand are poured into a third container, the individual containers of sand will cease to exist but will be joined together as one.

Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.