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"Whenever you enter a house, extend your peace" Matt 10:12 
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                             exploring God's grace in our lives.
Vol 6, Issue 1
January 22, 2012

January ISSN 2154-9958

  

Peace!

Welcome to Volume 6 Number 1 of The Contemporary Catholic.  We have begun the New Year with hope and a bit of trepidation.  Our first challenge is to look into our own hearts.  Do we harbor anger that stifles our growth?  Are we willing to address the issues that will begin to make a difference in our lives and those of others in the world?

It is important that we first learn to ask the right questions.  Working together we can explore answers that meet the needs of our every evolving world keeping in mind that it is God's unconditional love that binds us together.  Perhaps the articles here may help you begin to grapple with them in your own lives.   

 

May the peace of Christ, the love of God and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with us all!
In This Issue
Anger, Forgiveness and God
Ten Struggles
Doing or Being?
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Anger, Forgiveness and God    

Helen was angry.  Helen was a victim.  It was 1915 in the mountains of Armenia.  Life had been very good for a Christian living in a Muslim nation.  Then it all ended in a nightmare, fleeing for their lives their family and others only made it as far as the end of town.  The men were corralled and told they had a choice, deny their faith and accept Islam or die.  Refusing to do so, her father and others were immediately shot in the head.  Then the young boys were gathered together in a wooden building, the door locked gasoline poured and lit killing scores more.  Finally the women and girls were forced to begin a relocation march through mountains and across an arid desert.  Many died along the route.  Despite all these adverse conditions her mother never ceased to thank and praise God for all his love while Helen began to hate this God who allowed her father, brother and others to die such horrible death.  One day her sister became lost, her mother looking for the missing child went after her.  Helen was now alone, her mother never got back.  Here was another reason to hate God in fact and decide he never existed.  She carried this anger with her for most of her 80 plus years.  It was only at the end of her life that she began to deal with it by forgiving God and accepting God's forgiveness.  This was the story of Michelle Novotni's grandmother in her book, Angry with God.

 

The issues she raised in her book are ones we deal with every day on our lives if we are honest with ourselves.  Anger is so much a part of our lives that we accept it as well as feel guilty about it.  Usually anger rears its ugly head when something bad happens to us.  The first question we ask is why did this happen to me?  We then seek someone to blame for what has occurred.  Often we blame someone else and if it is seemingly outside anyone's control we blame God.  It is easier to be angry with others than God some of us even feel guilty about being angry with God.  Our anger stems from our desire to control our lives and is always self centered.  Like Helen we can't understand why bad things, horrendous things, happen to good people.  Why does a loving God allow this to happen?

 

While there are some answers none seem to satisfy us, especially when it happens to us, those we love and to innocents.  The question is not new, read the Book of Job and you'll find a litany of woes, shouts of "why?" and above all confusion.  Yet, one constant through the story is Job's refusal to deny God even when he is angry with what happened to him.  Like Helen's mother he held on because he believed that a loving God was always there to support them through all adversity.  They also realized that they could not even begin to understand God and what he has in store for those he loves.  In all their sorrow they could both be angry with God and forgive God. 

 

Forgiveness does not mean we forget what happens to us but we put it behind us.  It forces us to admit there has been something that has damaged our relationship and while we have been hurt we choose to re-establish this relationship on different terms.  However, forgiveness is very difficult to do for it requires us to let go of anger and feelings of superiority over the other person.  When it comes to our relationship with God, forgiveness becomes even harder, first because we feel violated in our trust and secondly because we feel powerless.  Instead we harbor this anger and further separate ourselves from God's unconditional love.  St Paul asks in his letter to the Romans 8:39, "Who can separate us from the love of God?"  The answer is our own anger and our own feelings of guilt.  In the first instance we choose to hold on to our feeling of being wronged because we cannot understand it.  Later, we feel that there is no way God could hope to forgive us since we have turned our backs on his love.  It is a terrible dilemma.  However, as St Paul continues the real answer is nothing can separate us from God's love for it is unconditional.

 

The "Our Father" is a dangerous prayer for in it we ask to be forgiven as we forgive others.  When we hold onto anger and resentment it becomes impossible for us to accept forgiveness.  Why do we need to be forgiven?  Relationship with God not a matter of score keeping, we will always lose.  It is a matter of us recognizing that no matter how good we think we are we are all too human in that we still sin whether in action, words, what we do or fail to do.  Forgiveness is not a onetime event it is a continual relationship activity.  When St Peter asked Jesus how many times he needed to forgive Jesus' response was to give him an astronomical number.  We are asked to continually seek and offer forgiveness for in doing this we begin to build a better relationship with each other and God.  This does not mean we are free to do as we will without consequences for in doing so we not only leave a wake of hurt but hurt ourselves.

 

By the time Helen got to the point near death where she could begin to forgive God she fell into the trap that she believed she could not be forgiven for her hatred all those years.  The surprising thing to her was that when she was able to realize God doesn't work that way she found peace at last.  When we can realize that we need to forgive and be forgiven we can find our own sense of peace.

    

Ten Struggles for Our Future 

In a National Catholic Reporter article from May 25, 2010, printed an article about 10 major faith and church struggles for our age as developed by OMI priest, Ron Rolheiser.  As we begin 2012 it might be worth our while to ponder these points.

1.   A struggle with the atheism of our everyday consciousness in a world caught up with materialism.  This is a very strong narcotic that places us at the center of our universe rather than God.  So, how do we combat the atheism of our everyday consciousness?  It requires us to be purposely mindful of all we have and not fall into the trap of seeing ourselves as the center of our universe.  

 

2.   A struggle to live in torn, divided and highly polarized communities to become healers and peacemakers even though we are wounded ourselves.  How do we become healers and peace makers when we too are wounded in a divided world?  In the Prayer of St Francis he asks God to help him sow unity when there is division first by seeing the whole cloth of creation as one and envisioning us being part of the process where the torn edges are joined together by finding a common thread of hope to bind all.

 

3.   A struggle to live, love and forgive beyond the infectious ideologies we daily breathe.  We need to be neither liberal nor conservative but rather a people of true compassion.  Going beyond ideologies is a difficult challenge for they tend to define who we are.  We find those of opposing positions as detrimental to a process of forgiveness.  Yet we are asked to be compassionate, to walk a mile in the shoes of the other to begin to understand others and treat them as we wish to be treated.

 

4. A struggle for a healthy sexuality that is both chaste and passionate.  A healthy sexuality in a society that on one hand glorifies rampant sexuality or denigrate the sexuality of individuals through ostracism, mutilation and death demands we stand for justice.  None are slaves to the sexual desires of others nor should they become victims of brutal misogyny.  

 

6.  A struggle to cope with personal grandiosity, ambition and pathological restlessness in a culture which nurtures immediate and ongoing gratification. We also find ourselves in a society that creates expectations for personal success regardless of the cost to ourselves and others.  We are no better than our next sale, next take over, the next whatever.  We demand cheaper goods and services regardless of the cost to human lives in our country or other nations so we can become sated.  We find, however, that we are never sated and we bemoan the fact that we have become a debtor nation on the backs of the poor.  Let us explore our hunger for more and demand justice for others in how we comport ourselves.  

 

7.  A struggle to not be motivated by paranoia, fear, narrowness and over protectionism in the face of terrorism and overpowering complexity, to not let the need for clarity and security trump compassion and truth. This struggle is a result of our need to control what we think is ours.  Look at the birds of the air, the lilies of the fields, Jesus told us, your Father is always mindful of them.  Then he takes an even broader step by telling is to share what we have with generosity.  By doing that we can begin to escape a rampant paranoia that we won't have enough for we will encourage the generosity of others.  Yes, the problems are complex but it is better to feed the hungry, clothe the naked, heal the sick and injured with compassion and thus built trust in a world that only sees war. 

 

8.   A struggle with moral loneliness inside a religious, cultural, political and moral dispersed society; to find a soul mate who is there with us at our deepest level.  Is there anyone out there who believes, feels and wants to make change happen?  Are the rules of religion, culture, politics such that we turned off and dissuaded from finding others with whom we can share our lives? 

 

9.  A struggle to link faith to justice, ecology and gender and to get a letter of reference from the poor.  Like all of the struggles noted before, we must find ways to balance all by not placing ourselves as the center of the world.  Justice can happen when we are willing to make a commitment to it.  Our world ecology will not wither if we are willing to take steps to change our expectations and curb our demands on its bounty.  Gender will cease to be a barrier when we value each individual as God's special creation. Trappist monk Fr Louis, aka Thomas Merton, had a mystical experience on the streets of Nashville on the rare visit he made to his physician's office.  Standing there on a street corner he saw all around him radiating a brilliance that could only be God's presence hidden in their lives.  He mused that if everyone could have seen this there would be no more wars, hatred or fear yet there would also be an unhealthy desire to bow in worship to one another and not the God who is present among us. 

 

10.  A struggle for community and church to find the healthy line between individuality and community, spirituality and religiosity, to be both mature and committed, spiritual and church to one another.  Western culture has focused on the importance of the individual to the exclusion of the importance of the community.  When faced with a tribal culture, western concepts of individuality could not and cannot grasp what this means in the lives of billions in the world. We need to learn to listen more to one another and see ourselves not as loners but part of a whole where the good of the individual is as important as the good of the whole community, where there is a synergy that must happen if we are to grow as God's people.  

 

As we progress in 2012 it might be good to keep these points in mind to determine how we as individuals can start to make a difference not just in our own lives but in the lives of those around us thereby beginning a change in the way the world operates.  Impossible?  I remember a song that was popular some years ago called High Hopes.  It was about how the impossible can happen.  An ant was toppling rubber tree plants that were massive in comparison to its diminutive size and a ram was butting a huge power dam to create a hole.  Each was successful despite the enormity of the challenge.   Emmanuel, God is with us, is what we need to be successful too for we have High Hopes that his kingdom will come because we are willing to struggle with the hard questions.

Doing or Being?

We are so obsessed with doing that we have no time and no imagination left for being. As a result, men are valued not for what they are but for what they do or what they have - for their usefulness.  Thomas Merton  

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